I was married to my ex-wife for two years. When we got married, I didn’t think about getting a prenup because, in my naïve belief, I thought she was “the one” and that she loved me for who I was, not for my money. Fortunately, my parents had taken precautions long before the marriage and legally placed everything—my car, houses, bank account, and assets—under their name. So, technically, I own nothing.
Things took a turn when I caught my ex-wife cheating on me. I kicked her out of my house and immediately told my lawyer about the situation. Since everything was legally my parents’ property, I told my lawyer that I didn’t want to see my ex-wife again, whether in court or during settlement agreements.
On the day of the divorce negotiations, my lawyer presented the documentation proving that none of the assets were in my name. According to him, my ex-wife’s reaction was dramatic—she went from happy to disbelief within seconds. My lawyer also informed me that she tried to physically attack him during the meeting, and now she’s facing assault accusations as well.
As of now, my divorce is almost finalized—I just need to sign a few papers. However, I’ve been dealing with unexpected fallout. My ex-wife, her family, and her friends have been bombarding me with insults, accusing me of being deceitful because I never told her that everything was in my parents’ name.
To be honest, I didn’t think it was necessary to disclose this detail. My ex never asked about it, and in my ignorance, I genuinely believed our relationship was built on love, not financial interests. I didn’t think it was relevant to volunteer this information. But now, with all the backlash, I’m starting to wonder if I was wrong.
For context:
- My parents transferred ownership of my assets to their name when I turned 18, and they’ve done the same for my siblings.
- I’m not from the USA or Europe.
- During our marriage, both of us worked—she was a secretary, and I worked in my family’s company.
- We didn’t handle household chores because we had maids.
- We had discussed finances, and she knew how much I earned, but the ownership of assets never came up in our conversations.
- We both agreed not to have children because we wanted a lifestyle free from the stress of parenting.
So, AITAH for not telling her about the arrangement with my parents?
